Stand Up BC!
Research has shown that several factors influence whether or not bystanders are likely to help a person in need. People are more likely to step in if they can easily recognize that a situation is wrong, are directly asked to help, and witness others helping. People are less likely to help in large group because everyone assumes someone else will step in.
Through Bystander Intervention Education by presented by the Women's Center, BC students are trained and encouraged to intervene in a way that feels comfortable to them. Students are always encouraged to call a professional, such as the police, if ever you feel unsafe! If you see a friend or a stranger in a situation that doesn’t seem right, you could:
Redirect the focus elsewhere. At a party for example, you could spill a drink, put on a popular song, or ask someone to take a picture. Separate the people involved. You could ask someone to dance, ask your friend to come with you to the bathroom or to grab late night food. Recruit others to help. You could recruit the help of your own friends or friends of the people who are involved in the situation. This is especially helpful if you don’t really know the people involved.
Derogatory language contributes to a culture of sexual violence. A rape joke, for example, can minimize someone’s experience as well as normalize that type of behavior. If you hear a friend use the word rape casually, or tell a homophobic, sexist, or racist joke, you could:
Reframe by responding as if you’re coming from a place of concern for that friend. For instance, you might say something like “Hey, Tom, you might offend someone by telling that type of joke. I just don’t want people to get a wrong impression of you.” Use “I” statements to state your feelings, name the behavior, and state how you want the person to respond. This focuses on your feelings rather than on criticizing the other person. “I feel really uncomfortable when you talk about hooking up with drunk girls. I’d really appreciate it if you wouldn’t talk about that, at least in front of me.”